For eyelashes I've been using superglue gel for a long time. Factory lashes always fall off as do the nails .
For make up I use powdered eye shadows for everything. Get yourself a mixed colour pallete with some small brushes and practice. Apply in thin layers and lighter colours building up to the look you want... you can keep adding more but too much and you'll be starting over again. Baby oil on a wetwipe is all you need to clean her face